An egomaniac is not someone who thinks too highly of themselves. Many of us think poorly of ourselves and still live as if everything depends on us. Egomania shows up whenever we believe that our safety, worth, or peace depends on our ability to manage life.

We may be egomaniacs if we believe it’s our job to manage how others experience us, how situations turn out, or how we feel inside. We monitor ourselves constantly, rehearse the past, and try to anticipate what might go wrong next. We may call this being careful, thoughtful, or prepared. Over time, it becomes exhausting.

Many of us learned these habits early. Some of us grew up needing to stay alert. Some of us discovered that being right, helpful, or impressive helped us feel safe or accepted. These strategies often served an important purpose. Eventually, they began to cost us our peace.

Egomaniacs often struggle with rest. Even when nothing is wrong, something feels unsettled. Silence can feel uncomfortable. Not knowing can feel threatening. We may confuse control with safety and effort with worth.

Our minds may feel rarely quiet. We plan, rehearse, justify, and correct. We may feel disconnected from others even while surrounded by people. We may feel unseen even when we are noticed.

If you are wondering whether this program is for you, you do not need to label yourself. You do not need to compare your experience to anyone else’s. If the effort of holding everything together feels heavy, and you are tired of carrying it alone, you may belong here.

Egos Anonymous does not ask us to think less of ourselves or to get rid of the ego. It invites us to see how much we have been asking the ego to do. As that burden loosens, many of us discover a relief we did not know was possible.