“To love well is the task in all meaningful relationships.”
— bell hooks, All About Love
Step Eight invites us to see that love is not only an interior feeling but also a way of being responsible for the impact of our lives. Much of what we call self-protection — controlling outcomes, withdrawing affection, defending our position — can have consequences. Not because we are bad, but because fear narrows our field of vision. We act from a smaller self, and others often feel it.
To love well usually requires a willingness to face that impact without collapsing into shame. Shame tends to keep the focus turned inward, circling the self. Love can widen it. Love may ask, gently, “How have I participated in the wound?” Not to condemn, but to begin repair.
Step Eight is often described as readiness. It can feel like a quiet consent to let truth make us more relational. As responsibility begins to replace defensiveness, accountability may start to feel less like punishment and more like participation in something larger — God, Spirit, Truth, Presence, however we name or experience it — a Love that seems to be moving toward wholeness for everyone involved.
Egos Anonymous is offered in an experimental spirit—an invitation to see whether there’s interest in a shared way of working with ego, self-will, and control. The language, structure, and practices are still forming and are meant to grow through lived experience.
This is a soft launch. The hope is to eventually gather a year of reflections into a book, but for now they’re simply being shared—one day at a time—to see what resonates.
If something feels useful, confusing, incomplete, or off, feedback is welcome and genuinely appreciated. This work is meant to be shaped together.
