“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.”
— Maya Angelou
Step Nine is where willingness meets action. After acknowledging where our self-protection has affected others, we begin to consider what repair might look like. This step is not about clearing our conscience or fixing the past. It is about aligning our actions with what we now see more clearly.
Sometimes repair involves a direct apology. Sometimes it may look like changed behavior, patience, or restraint. Step Nine asks us to move thoughtfully, considering what might heal and what could cause further harm. We may need to let go of the hope for a particular response and focus instead on showing up differently.
Over time, these small, careful acts of repair can begin to restore trust — with others and, perhaps more quietly, within ourselves.
Egos Anonymous is offered in an experimental spirit—an invitation to see whether there’s interest in a shared way of working with ego, self-will, and control. The language, structure, and practices are still forming and are meant to grow through lived experience.
This is a soft launch. The hope is to eventually gather a year of reflections into a book, but for now they’re simply being shared—one day at a time—to see what resonates.
If something feels useful, confusing, incomplete, or off, feedback is welcome and genuinely appreciated. This work is meant to be shaped together.
