“We do not think ourselves into new ways of living; we live ourselves into new ways of thinking.”
— Richard Rohr
Step Three may not be a heroic act of will. It can begin as the quiet recognition that our will has limits. The ego often prefers clarity before commitment. It may want assurance that surrender will work before it agrees to let go. But the spiritual life doesn’t always unfold through analysis. It often unfolds through participation.
We may not arrive at trust by reasoning our way into it. More often, we seem to grow into it by practicing it. By choosing not to defend ourselves in a small moment. By allowing uncertainty without immediately resolving it. By consenting to love when fear might feel easier. These lived decisions can begin to reshape us from the inside. Over time, the mind may start to trust what the heart has already practiced — that we are sustained by more than our own effort.
Surrender, then, may not be passivity. It can feel more like alignment. Like placing our will inside a larger Will — God, Reality, a Higher Power — and discovering that we do not disappear there. We may become more fully ourselves.
Egos Anonymous is offered in an experimental spirit—an invitation to see whether there’s interest in a shared way of working with ego, self-will, and control. The language, structure, and practices are still forming and are meant to grow through lived experience.
This is a soft launch. The hope is to eventually gather a year of reflections into a book, but for now they’re simply being shared—one day at a time—to see what resonates.
If something feels useful, confusing, incomplete, or off, feedback is welcome and genuinely appreciated. This work is meant to be shaped together.
