“We think that the point is to pass the test or to overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart.”
— Pema Chödrön, When Things Fall Apart
Step Two may be where you begin to notice how much of your life has felt like an exam. The ego often seems to be trying to pass. To fix. To secure the next moment so it won’t fall apart. It may treat uncertainty like failure and impermanence like a mistake.
But if you watch gently, you might begin to sense that life has its own rhythm. Things arise. They dissolve. Moods move through. Situations change. Beneath all of it, something remains.
Some people call that God.
Some call it Reality.
Some call it a Higher Power.
Whatever the name, it may begin to feel less like an idea and more like a presence — something already here, already sustaining what you were trying so hard to manage.
The mind may still want resolution. It may still want guarantees. But the heart can begin to sense that you are not holding your life by yourself. You are inside something larger than your effort.
Step Two is not about finding a better strategy. It is about trusting that Reality itself — already present and sustaining you — can hold what you no longer can.
Egos Anonymous is offered in an experimental spirit—an invitation to see whether there’s interest in a shared way of working with ego, self-will, and control. The language, structure, and practices are still forming and are meant to grow through lived experience.
This is a soft launch. The hope is to eventually gather a year of reflections into a book, but for now they’re simply being shared—one day at a time—to see what resonates.
If something feels useful, confusing, incomplete, or off, feedback is welcome and genuinely appreciated. This work is meant to be shaped together.
