“The real ‘work’ of prayer is to become silent and listen to the voice that says good things about me.”
— Henri J.M. Nouwen
So much of our inner effort can be driven by fear — fear of being judged, fear of being wrong, fear of not being enough. The mind fills space quickly, often trying to stay ahead of shame. Silence can feel risky for that reason. And yet, silence may be where we begin to hear something different — not the familiar accusations, but a quieter voice that doesn’t require us to perform.
This kind of listening isn’t always dramatic. It may be a few seconds of not rehearsing what to say next. A moment of letting the body soften. A willingness to stop arguing with ourselves long enough to receive what is kind and true. Over time, this “work” may feel less like striving and more like remembering — that blessing is not something we earn, but something we learn to let in.
Egos Anonymous is offered in an experimental spirit—an invitation to see whether there’s interest in a shared way of working with ego, self-will, and control. The language, structure, and practices are still forming and are meant to grow through lived experience.
This is a soft launch. The hope is to eventually gather a year of reflections into a book, but for now they’re simply being shared—one day at a time—to see what resonates.
If something feels useful, confusing, incomplete, or off, feedback is welcome and genuinely appreciated. This work is meant to be shaped together.
