“The cure for loneliness is solitude.”
— May Sarton, Journal of a Solitude
Loneliness and solitude are not the same. Loneliness often carries the ache of disconnection—the feeling that something essential is missing. Self-will can respond by reaching outward quickly, searching for reassurance, approval, or distraction. We try to solve the feeling by filling it.
Solitude is different. It is chosen presence rather than forced isolation. In solitude, we are not performing or managing how we are seen. We are simply here. When we allow ourselves to remain without rushing to secure connection, something shifts. The ache may soften into quiet companionship with our own experience. From that steadier place, connection with others tends to feel less desperate and more genuine.
Solitude does not replace community. It prepares us for it. When we are less afraid of being alone, we are less likely to demand that others rescue us from ourselves.
Egos Anonymous is offered in an experimental spirit—an invitation to see whether there’s interest in a shared way of working with ego, self-will, and control. The language, structure, and practices are still forming and are meant to grow through lived experience.
This is a soft launch. The hope is to eventually gather a year of reflections into a book, but for now they’re simply being shared—one day at a time—to see what resonates.
If something feels useful, confusing, incomplete, or off, feedback is welcome and genuinely appreciated. This work is meant to be shaped together.
