“The cure for pain is in the pain.”
— Rainer Maria Rilke
Most of us were trained to move away from discomfort as quickly as possible. Fix it. Distract from it. Control it. Self-will becomes most active when something hurts. We tighten around the experience and begin searching for relief.
But some forms of pain do not resolve through avoidance. Grief that is not felt lingers. Shame that is not named deepens. Fear that is not faced quietly governs from the background. When we allow ourselves to remain present—without dramatizing and without suppressing—something shifts. The pain may not disappear, but it begins to move. What once felt solid becomes something we can sit with.
This is not about seeking suffering or proving strength. It is about no longer fighting what is already here. Sometimes the change we are waiting for does not come from outside the experience, but from staying gently inside it. In that staying, we may find that we are not alone.
Egos Anonymous is offered in an experimental spirit—an invitation to see whether there’s interest in a shared way of working with ego, self-will, and control. The language, structure, and practices are still forming and are meant to grow through lived experience.
This is a soft launch. The hope is to eventually gather a year of reflections into a book, but for now they’re simply being shared—one day at a time—to see what resonates.
If something feels useful, confusing, incomplete, or off, feedback is welcome and genuinely appreciated. This work is meant to be shaped together.
