“Prayer is not asking. It is a longing of the soul.”
— Kathleen Norris, Amazing Grace
Many of us learned to pray as a form of negotiation. We asked for outcomes to change, for clarity to arrive, for discomfort to ease. Self-will can quietly slip into prayer, turning it into another attempt to manage what feels uncertain.
But longing is different from demand. Longing does not control. It opens. It is the quiet recognition that something in us reaches toward what is larger than our own effort. Sometimes that longing appears as restlessness. Sometimes as grief. Sometimes as a simple desire to be more honest than we have been.
When prayer becomes longing rather than asking, it shifts the direction of change. The world may not rearrange itself. We may. The grip of self-will softens. The need to secure an outcome eases. What remains is a steady turning toward Love—not to obtain it, but to participate in it.
Egos Anonymous is offered in an experimental spirit—an invitation to see whether there’s interest in a shared way of working with ego, self-will, and control. The language, structure, and practices are still forming and are meant to grow through lived experience.
This is a soft launch. The hope is to eventually gather a year of reflections into a book, but for now they’re simply being shared—one day at a time—to see what resonates.
If something feels useful, confusing, incomplete, or off, feedback is welcome and genuinely appreciated. This work is meant to be shaped together.
