“It may be that when we no longer know what to do, we have come to our real work, and that when we no longer know which way to go, we have begun our real journey.”
— Wendell Berry, Real Work
Many of us were trained to know what to do. To analyze, decide, improve, manage. Not knowing can feel like failure. When plans fall apart or clarity disappears, self-will often tightens. We search harder for answers. We push for resolution.
But there are moments when the old strategies stop working—not because we are deficient, but because something deeper is being asked of us. When we no longer know what to do, we may be arriving at humility. The need to control loosens. The illusion that everything depends on us begins to soften. What feels like disorientation may be the beginning of trust. The real work may not be fixing the situation, but staying present without forcing it.
Egos Anonymous is offered in an experimental spirit—an invitation to see whether there’s interest in a shared way of working with ego, self-will, and control. The language, structure, and practices are still forming and are meant to grow through lived experience.
This is a soft launch. The hope is to eventually gather a year of reflections into a book, but for now they’re simply being shared—one day at a time—to see what resonates.
If something feels useful, confusing, incomplete, or off, feedback is welcome and genuinely appreciated. This work is meant to be shaped together.
