"Before you know kindness as the deepest thing inside,

you must know sorrow as the other deepest thing."

— Naomi Shihab Nye, Kindness

Kindness, in this framing, is not a disposition we cultivate or a habit we practice into place. It may be something that surfaces through loss — through having been brought low enough that the distance between ourselves and others begins to feel less significant. Self-will can keep that distance carefully maintained. Sorrow sometimes dissolves it without asking permission.

This is not a case for seeking difficulty. It is more of a noticing — that what makes us genuinely tender toward others may not come from effort. It may come from having needed something ourselves and, in that need, recognized the same need moving quietly through everyone around us.

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Egos Anonymous is offered in an experimental spirit—an invitation to see whether there’s interest in a shared way of working with ego, self-will, and control. The language, structure, and practices are still forming and are meant to grow through lived experience.

This is a soft launch. The hope is to eventually gather a year of reflections into a book, but for now they’re simply being shared—one day at a time—to see what resonates.

If something feels useful, confusing, incomplete, or off, feedback is welcome and genuinely appreciated. This work is meant to be shaped together.