Egos Anonymous Reflections — Egos Anonymous

"In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer." —Albert Camus, Return to Tipasa The discovery Camus describes did not come during a comfortable season. It came in depth—in the difficulty

Wendy Etter 5/6/26 Wendy Etter 5/6/26

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"Freeing yourself was one thing, claiming ownership of that freed self was another." —Toni Morrison, Beloved There may be moments when something loosens—a long-held pattern softens, a defense drops, a burden is set down. These mo

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"All real living is meeting." —Martin Buber, I and Thou Buber spent much of his life thinking about the difference between two kinds of relating. In one, the other person becomes an object—something to manage, evaluate, or move a

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"Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes." —Carl Jung, letter to Fanny Bowditch, 1916 Much of our energy can go outward—toward what others are doing, what circumstances are offering, what the world owes us or threatens

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"The chief thing that separates us from God is the thought that we are separated from God." —Thomas Keating, Open Mind, Open Heart The sense of distance from something larger than ourselves may not be a description of reality. It

Wendy Etter 5/2/26 Wendy Etter 5/2/26

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"What do we live for, if it is not to make life less difficult for each other?" —George Eliot, Middlemarch Self-will can make life feel like a largely private project—something to get right, to manage well, to secure against futu

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"Love is not primarily a relationship to a specific person; it is an attitude, an orientation of character which determines the relatedness of a person to the world as a whole." —Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving We tend to experien

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"So hope for a great sea-change On the far side of revenge. Believe that a further shore Is reachable from here." —Seamus Heaney, The Cure at Troy Revenge, in this sense, can describe any closed loop—the resentment we return t

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"I am rooted, but I flow." —Virginia Woolf, The Waves To be rooted suggests a ground that holds—something beneath the surface that doesn't shift with every mood or circumstance. Many of us have spent years looking for that steadi

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"Men are disturbed not by the things which happen, but by the opinions about the things." —Epictetus, Enchiridion The ego tends to experience events and interpretations of events as the same thing. Something happens, and the stor

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"There is a desire within each of us, in the deep center of ourselves that we call our heart. We were born with it, it is never completely satisfied, and it never stops pulling at us." —Gerald May, Will and Spirit Much of our eff

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"Love in action is a harsh and dreadful thing compared to love in dreams." —Fyodor Dostoevsky, The Brothers Karamazov Love as an idea can be quite comfortable. In the abstract, we are generous, patient, understanding. It is the a

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"Ours is not the task of fixing the entire world all at once, but of stretching out to mend the part of the world that is within our reach." —Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Letter to a Young Activist During Troubled Times Self-will can

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"Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: 'What! You too? I thought I was the only one.'" —C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves Self-protection often works by convincing us that our particular confusion, fear, or

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"Love is the extremely difficult realization that something other than oneself is real." —Iris Murdoch, The Sublime and the Good Self-will tends to center everything around the self—its needs, its story, its version of events. Ot

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"All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone." —Blaise Pascal, Pensées Pascal wrote this in the seventeenth century, long before there was anything else to look at. The observation may feel

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"We shall not cease from exploration And the end of all our exploring Will be to arrive where we started And know the place for the first time." —T.S. Eliot, Four Quartets The ego tends to experience the inner life as progress

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"I am large, I contain multitudes." —Walt Whitman, Song of Myself, Leaves of Grass Self-will often wants consistency—a stable, coherent self that knows what it thinks, feels, and wants. When we contradict ourselves, hold two feel

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"All human nature vigorously resists grace because grace changes us and the change is painful." —Flannery O'Connor, Mystery and Manners This is not a comfortable observation. We tend to imagine that we would welcome grace—that if s

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"All flourishing is mutual." —Robin Wall Kimmerer, Braiding Sweetgrass Much of our effort can rest on the assumption that flourishing is individual—something we achieve through the right decisions, the right effort, the right amoun

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